The Truth About Grief

The Truth About Grief

The Myth of Its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss

Book - 2011
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In this illuminating account of how we grieve, Ruth David Konigsberg reveals that everything we thought we knew about confronting loss is wrong. She maintains that people cope with grief thanks largely to the human capacity for resilience, relying heavily on the work of psychologist George Bonanno.
Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, c2011.
ISBN: 9781439148334
Characteristics: 258 p. ;,22 cm.


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Sep 04, 2019

" In 1995, Kubler-Ross suffered a major stroke and was partially paralyzed, but after moving to Arizona, to be closer to her son, Kenneth, she kept writing books and posted personal news for her followers on her Web site. In 2004, after proclaiming for years that she was ready to expire, Kubler-Ross died at her home in Scottsdale at the age of seventy-eight." " When a baby gorilla named Claudio died in the Munster Zoo in Germany in 2008 and his mother, Gana, carried his corpse around for three days, captivated onlookers assumed that despair was driving her behavior. Primatologists pointed out that in the wild, apes often hold on to dead children for long periods, not because they're experiencing terrible sorrow, but because, lacking the ability to take the baby's pulse, they're protecting their genetic investment in case the baby is only temporarily comatose." Valerie Harper, the tv actress, died the other night, after years of predicting her imminent demise. The local oldies channel will be showing a retrospective of her famous role on the MARY TYLER MOORE SHOW; several episodes of that--but only one episode of her own series, RHODA. Rest In Peace, Rhoda. Long Time Ago When You Were Fab.

Good academic read, critical of some of the modern trends in grief counselling. I would not recommend this to someone who is grieving and looking for solace but it is of interest for students of the subject.

Nan99 Dec 29, 2013

Unfortunately, most hospitals do not have grief counsellors on staff. In Victoria, grief counselling is available at no charge from Victoria Hospice, a non-profit society that receives no funding from the Health Authority. The majority of people do not need or want grief counselling and manage to navigate their way with support from friends and/or family. However, for those people whose grief is more difficult, for whatever reasons, grief counselling can be helpful. The best comment I've read about this book is that it would have been appreciated if it had been written 40 years ago. In my own experience, I have never worked with a grief counsellor who relies on stage theory. A more accurate summary of a good counsellor's approach might be "Grief is what the bereaved person says it is." To suggest that there is "A Truth" about grief is equally restrictive and harmful. Grief, like all human experience, contains many truths that each of us discovers, whether on our own or in the company of supportive others. For a different read, have a look at "About Grief -- Insights, Setbacks, Grace Notes, Taboos" by Ron Marasco & Brian Shuff (2010).

May 20, 2013

To PatEe; Everyone is different; you may have somehow known how to grieve on your own, but most people would benefit greatly by grief counseling, and it needn't be expensive. Most hospitals have grief counselors available to anyone, free of charge, as well as support groups, which can be extremely helpful. Also, many Churches have grief counseling, available to anyone, regardless of their religion. Grief can be paralyzing, painful, and last for years for some people; it should not be minimized or marginalized, whether the person is 6 or 60.

debwalker May 09, 2011

Everyone's journey is different.

Mar 05, 2011

Having just lost my Mother, this book was not so much informative as it is comforting. People know how to grieve on their own, without the five stages, or expensive grief counsellors, or any support at all.
And it's okay and probably normal, to get over the shock without being a basket case and get on with your life in a short period of time.
This book is the truth about grieving. Forget the experts.

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